YOUR EMOTIONAL FOUNDATION

Last night was a new moon, a time where people’s emotions (females specifically) always seem to be a touch more sensitive. I found myself speaking to three different clients that suggested that their emotions were running very high, and interestingly, mine were too! That made me start thinking about how our emotions really get triggered. Or should I say, how the emotional foundation really gets created..

I am sure you remember those popular statements people use when they are telling other people how to feel…  “Big kids don’t cry”,  “Wipe that smile off your face”,  “Stop crying or I will give you something to cry about!”,  “Do not show sadness”,  “Do not show your anger”,  or even “Do not show too much happiness, for you will hurt others feelings”.  Every day people are told how to feel, what emotions to have and how to behave in the result of this.

Voices of old emotional conditioning, still echo in many peoples heads. Some people have completely blocked them out, where some have pushed these phrases to the backs of their mind, yet still, believe them as they go about their day.  The only emotional idea that I really remember hearing from a young age was to not act too happy around those people that aren’t. This seems so wrong to me now, for happiness attracts happiness!!!

Blocking out feelings is a dangerous habit, for pretty soon you will not know how you really feel. The feelings that you pass off as other feelings, never really go away. They are transformed into other emotions, or ideas of other emotions, and never get dealt with. These transformed feelings, which are really fake feelings from simply not dealing with the original ones, usually get projected onto someone else you have in your life.  These people are usually your family, partner or good friends.

When you close off your feelings, you close off the powers that fuel your creative actions and ideas. When you do this, your creativity can become fogged over.  Even though some feelings you might have might be quite painful, painful emotions are still part of your body’s natural GPS that gives you information on how to act in specific situations.

When you ignore feelings, even if they are painful or uneasy for us to handle, it is as if you are limiting yourself to playing only a few notes on a guitar.  You will never be able to play the entire song, which is your life.  You have to take all of your feelings in as they originally come and process them in your own mind… without any outside influence.

When the time is taken to really dissect your feelings as they come up, you will start to be very aware of what makes you feel specific ways.  When you are not ‘faking’ your emotions anymore, you can live a more peaceful and creative life, for you will become conscious in avoiding the people, places, and situations that bother you. If you ignore or avoid your true feelings, your feelings will control you.  All of your creativity and creative expression will become completely fogged over, for you are not in control of your life. When you are aware of what you feel, it is easier to move your feelings properly into a happier, more peaceful state of being.  All feelings and memories, no matter how they make you feel, add to the development of your creativity.